Anger. Mad. Peeved. Ticked off. P. O’ed. All of these words are different, but they all have the same meaning. Anger. What is anger, how do people deal with anger, what angers people, why are people angry. All of these questions in one sense have a simple answer, they are unique to everyone, one could say that it is what makes us human. Yet this seemingly simple answer is complex as human nature its self. To understand anger, you must first understand the person. Once you understand the person, you can only start to understand what boils their water.
Do I get mad, one could say that I get mad as heck. But I do not just get mad at one stupid little thing. For the most part, you kind of have to work at me to get me mad at you or for me to get mad at something, yet when I do get mad, I snap. Everyone who has truly seen me get mad knows to just stay away. For example, the last time I got mad, the dog knew well enough to get on the dodge and run and hid upstairs. Granted the fact the I was mad enough to just about put a hole in the wall and break a watch, but that is just one example of how I snap.
What gets me mad. Well, the best way to get me mad would most likely be, after I put my trust into you, consider you a good, sound person, a person I can really trust, is for me to have to reconsider what or how I think of you. To put it short, if you lie to me, and I find out. Nothing gets me more mad then to have someone lie to me, or take advantage of my relative niceness and play me for an idiot. That to me is the lowest thing one can do. I don’t mind doing a favor for someone, but don’t act like you really need a favor, when you just plan to do something that is the complete opposite, and if you really want me to flip out make it something concerning the fact that I had to rethink our friendship.
Oddly enough I am also a believer in live and let live, don’t let the little things get to you. On the outside I can act like nothing is bothering me, but often times on the inside, I will always be remembering what made me mad and almost keep little tabs on things. So its almost like one big contradiction in the sense that I say what I should to, I know what I should do, and I do it so it seems I am living my life the way it looks like I am, but in all reality, I live in anger most of the time, and because of that, I just don’t care about all that much.
All in all, anger to me is neither here or there. Things will really bother me, but then I will let them go. But I will not forget about it, I will always when someone make me rethink something I took very seriously.
But that’s just me
Friend.
Webster's New World Dictionary and Thesaurus Second Edition defines this six letter as a person whom one knows well and is fond of. Simply put, someone you know and like. Yet leave it to this modern day in age to mess a simple little eight word definition up.
To many people a friend is just someone you know about and just say to know the just to sound cool or to fit in. but all that is, to me at least, is no more than a botchery of the English language. Now, many people think that I have weird views or say that I’m the last of a dying breed or that I’m old beyond my time. Why do they think that, I guess that because of my up bringing, that I see things more real than other. Through what I have seen in my short like, I have come to a simple conclusion, life stinks, and there’s no sense in trying to play the good guy, because of the fact that even though they maybe right, people want to believe in what they want to, and no matter what you say, they have to find out on their own that you were being honest and trying to help them, while they just take every thing with a grain of salt.
Anyway, back to the whole friend thing. To me there is four levels to being a friend, or at a friend to me.
First: Someone you know. By this I mean that someone you know more than just a name and face. Someone you have your own opinion of and not just what other people have told you about them.
Second: Someone you like. By this, I do not mean someone you want to date or make out with. By liking someone, you mean that you will be willing to get to know them a little better and maybe hang out with them a time or two, weather its just shooting bull, or going to the movies, just hanging out with a friend.
Third: A person that you are fond of. Even though by true definition, this kind of has a mushy mean, but face facts, you kind of haft to have some sort of deep feelings for a friend. If you are willing to do an act that might be going against the grain, then you have some sort of deeper feelings for that person, then you do for doing what you should.
Forth: A person you can trust and respect. Now I know I just grouped two seemingly non-related words together, but to me if you are to the point were you have respect for someone, then chances are that you have some sort of respect of them.
After all of this, I see only one real question that may arise, what kind of friend, or person of that matter, do I think I am. Well, I think I have the answer. “There’s only a few people in life that will say that they will put their own personal goals and dreams aside 10 times out of 10 to help someone, regardless of who they are. But fewer yet are the ones who will, and rare are the ones who do. Yet one can not consider oneself among this rare group. Why you may ask, well, its because it doesn’t matter how you look at yourself, or what you can do or have done for yourself, what you have done and are willing to do to others that decides what kind of person and or friend you really are.”
After you have asked this quote to yourself and apply it to yourself and ask it about your friends, then you will find out what kind of friends you really have and what kind of friend you really are.
